IS IT JUST me or does everyone think we need to talk about something tricky?

I think we can admit that feminism is a dirty word. But it really shouldn't be.

All my life I've been told I can do anything I want and I chose a career with a very defined path for women. There has been no glass ceiling for me - if I haven't progressed as far as others it has nothing to do with gender.

But I know I'm luckier than many. In my own industry there is a powerful boys club. On and off the air there are still jobs women are not deemed suitable for and women are often considered "shrill" or "aggressive" just for saying something a man would.

This week Steve Price caused a storm when he labelled fellow Q and A panellist Van Badham "hysterical" while they were arguing about Eddie McGuire's "drowning" joke controversy.

Steve Price has refused to apologise, saying he is disappointed an important debate is being sidetracked by concentrating on him rather than true violence against women.

To a certain extent, I agree with Steve Price. Some sidetracks actually hurt the advancement of women. This week a Wimbledon commentator was accused of "creepy sexism" because he saw a player's girlfriend who happens to be a dental surgeon and commented: "It's a pity my dentist doesn't look like that".

Of course the twitterverse went nuts but for my money it was just a lighthearted compliment. Had he said, "Yeah, sure, that hot blonde is a dental surgeon!", it would have been sexist but dentists are allowed to be attractive and it shouldn't be a crime to notice.

But what happened to Steve Price isn't a sidetrack.

Hysterical is a loaded word. Steve Price says he didn't know that, but I bet his wife did.

Even girls like me, who have never truly felt marginalised by gender, still know their place. If I am upset or angry at work I apologise immediately for getting 'carried away', I never send cranky emails and I worry every single day that I've said too much or been too opinionated.

In contrast, Steve Price has built a career on controversy. I don't think his bosses have ever asked themselves if he is just a little too much. I guarantee my bosses have had dozens of conversations about me. Van Badham was not being hysterical on Q and A, she was just giving as good as she got - behaving like a man would. Steve Price used the word "hysterical" to shut her down.

The suffragettes changed the world and things continue to improve but every time we accept that a woman is being too bossy, feisty, ball-busting or hysterical, just because she is giving it to a man, we're letting ourselves down.