GRUMPY faces won't get dates on Valentine's Day.

It's as simple as that.

But it's not all bad news. Murwillumbah kinergetics expert Ronda Graham believes most people would do much better on the big day if they just felt better within themselves.

Times are tough, money is short, stress is high, but it's time to start thinking about the kind of energy we're exuding, she said.

"You can get your sexy back," Ms Graham said.

"Connecting with someone else is all about the energy you give out, and if it's negative, you usually don't stand a chance.

"If you're exuding confidence and feel free to express yourself and share yourself with others, then that is very attractive."

Kinergetics helps release stress by identifying tense areas through muscle testing and, ideally, could make you a more relaxed, approachable date.

"The healing practice of kinergetics can work wonders with your confidence and ability to express yourself with ease," Ms Graham said.

"Kinergetics is all about releasing the stress you're holding in your body so the real you can appear.

"Attracting someone of the opposite sex usually has nothing to do with what you're wearing and how you look - it's all about the vibe you give off.

"We know people who seem to look good no matter what they wear, and that is because they have a natural confidence and ease.

"For those who don't have a natural confidence it is possible to connect with the confidence that exists within you."

Ms Graham is a qualified kinergetics practitioner with a private practice, A Metamorphic Connection, in Murwillumbah and Blacktown and regularly runs kinergetics workshops.